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LumpyGravy · 02-12-2008, 10:34 PM

Title says it all really. It might sound a bit melodramatic, but I'm starting to think my girlfriend of quite a long time has depression of some sort. It's very selfish of me to say so, but it is incredibly hard and frustrating to see and try and deal with.

I don't know what I'm looking for by posting this, I suppose it's a nice imaginary outlet

TheNumberOfTheBeast · 02-12-2008, 10:37 PM

My mum has a close friend who is married to a manic deppresant, it's very hard work and very difficult caring for him, although after they found the right psycologist it got a lot easier

lbix. · 02-12-2008, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by LumpyGravy

Title says it all really. It might sound a bit melodramatic, but I'm starting to think my girlfriend of quite a long time has depression of some sort. It's very selfish of me to say so, but it is incredibly hard and frustrating to see and try and deal with.

I don't know what I'm looking for by posting this, I suppose it's a nice imaginary outlet

Have you tried talking to her about it?

Speaking from experience, as long as you know you are a good person, the first thing you should remember is it's not your fault, and try not to take it personally.

It's an awful situation to be in, I feel for you.

JaseMorris · 02-12-2008, 10:58 PM

Not selfish at all, depression is a bitch to deal with. The depressee is selfish, not intentionally, but as a consequence of the condition. As has been said, try not to take things personally, the depression can take hold of the mouth and make it say the blackest, cruellest of things.

LumpyGravy · 02-12-2008, 11:01 PM

Cheers for your thoughts. It's something we've talked about extensively, but it doesn't seem to make it any easier. It's just something you have to be strong about I suppose.

imported_timmyo · 02-12-2008, 11:07 PM

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Originally Posted by LumpyGravy

It's just something you have to be strong about I suppose.

If you mean ignore it and just fight on regardless then I'd say no : it's worth seeking treatment to see if it can be eased.

Emperor Fabulous · 02-12-2008, 11:26 PM

I know how you feel mate. It's so hard trying to keep picking someone up, time after time, and it becomes hard work. Your girlfriend's depression can easily pull you with it, especially when your efforts fail. I know taking tablets isn't in vogue these days, but I speak from personal experience of Prozac. When I hit bottom, it lifted me enough so I could get back on my feet. It took two years, but I seriously doubt I would be who I am today without it.

If your girlfriend's illness has been going on for a while, you ought to encourage her to get it treated. Neither of you have to endure this, it's treatable by several methods, and plenty of those without medication. There is no stigma attached to depression these days, it's an illness, and it can be cured.

holnrew · 02-12-2008, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by imported_timmyo

If you mean ignore it and just fight on regardless then I'd say no : it's worth seeking treatment to see if it can be eased.

+1

holnrew · 02-13-2008, 12:00 AM

If you do take something give it a while to work, but it might not be for you. When I was on Prozac I was fine for a while but then got suicidal and started cutting words into my leg and shit but the doctor told me to keep taking them... but I stopped and then felt better, dread to think what would have happened if I kept taking them. I'm on Citalopram and it seems to suit me.

Dying_Willow · 02-13-2008, 01:07 AM

http://www.depressionforums.org/

This is a pretty good place to gain some good understanding of such things.

The community there is very helpful, and i've found that they, through their own experiences, are in a very good postition to give advice.

Depression can drag the both of you down, so it's best to deal with it sooner rather than later, as it could affect her permanently.

Take care.

02-12-2008, 10:34 PM	#1
LumpyGravy Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 373	Coping with depression of a loved one [/blog] Title says it all really. It might sound a bit melodramatic, but I'm starting to think my girlfriend of quite a long time has depression of some sort. It's very selfish of me to say so, but it is incredibly hard and frustrating to see and try and deal with. I don't know what I'm looking for by posting this, I suppose it's a nice imaginary outlet

02-12-2008, 10:37 PM	#2
TheNumberOfTheBeast Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 3,070	My mum has a close friend who is married to a manic deppresant, it's very hard work and very difficult caring for him, although after they found the right psycologist it got a lot easier __________________ BOOM!!!!! head shot!! Ohhh... was he on are team?? Possibly the worst COD4 sniper ever

02-13-2008, 12:00 AM	#9
holnrew Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Cheltenham Posts: 20,391	If you do take something give it a while to work, but it might not be for you. When I was on Prozac I was fine for a while but then got suicidal and started cutting words into my leg and shit but the doctor told me to keep taking them... but I stopped and then felt better, dread to think what would have happened if I kept taking them. I'm on Citalopram and it seems to suit me. __________________ Nick Botfield once stood on the shoulders of giants. It was then that he realised he was afraid of heights.

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02-12-2008, 11:01 PM	#5
LumpyGravy Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 373	Cheers for your thoughts. It's something we've talked about extensively, but it doesn't seem to make it any easier. It's just something you have to be strong about I suppose.

02-12-2008, 11:26 PM	#7
Emperor Fabulous Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Wales Posts: 3,442	I know how you feel mate. It's so hard trying to keep picking someone up, time after time, and it becomes hard work. Your girlfriend's depression can easily pull you with it, especially when your efforts fail. I know taking tablets isn't in vogue these days, but I speak from personal experience of Prozac. When I hit bottom, it lifted me enough so I could get back on my feet. It took two years, but I seriously doubt I would be who I am today without it. If your girlfriend's illness has been going on for a while, you ought to encourage her to get it treated. Neither of you have to endure this, it's treatable by several methods, and plenty of those without medication. There is no stigma attached to depression these days, it's an illness, and it can be cured.

02-13-2008, 01:07 AM	#10
Dying_Willow Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Shropshire, England Posts: 253	http://www.depressionforums.org/ This is a pretty good place to gain some good understanding of such things. The community there is very helpful, and i've found that they, through their own experiences, are in a very good postition to give advice. Depression can drag the both of you down, so it's best to deal with it sooner rather than later, as it could affect her permanently. Take care.